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It's My Party and I Don't Want to Go
by Amanda PanitchA funny and honest portrayal of living with social anxiety, this timely novel explores the universal themes of growing up and finding your voice, set in a fast-paced comedy.Ellie Katz is sabotaging her own party.Sure, it seems extreme, but it's the only option for her bat mitzvah. Crowds and attention always made her nervous, and lately they've been making it harder and harder for Ellie to breathe. The celebration would mean (1) a large crowd, (2) lots of staring, and (3) distant family listening to her sing in another language. No thank you!To avoid certain catastrophe, she hatches a plan with her best friend Zoe to ruin the big day. Cue the email hacking, DJ takedown, and an all-out food fight! Everything is falling apart according to plan, until a fight with Zoe leaves Ellie alone on her path of destruction, facing some unintended consequences and disappointments. Can she find a way to right her wrongs, face her fears, and light her candles?
It's Nobody's Fault: New Hope and Help for Difficult Children and Their Parents
by Harold S. KoplewiczPeople who wouldn't dream of blaming parents for a child's asthma or diabetes are often quick to blame bad parenting for a child's hyperactivity, depression, or school phobia. The parents, in turn, often blame their children, believing that they're lazy or rebellious. Even worse, the children with these psychological problems often blame themselves, convinced that they're just bad kids. In It's Nobody's Fault, esteemed child and adolescent psychiatrist Dr. Harold S. Kopelwicz at last puts an end to this pointless--and erroneous--cycle of blame and helps parents get the help they need for their troubled children. Written in an easy, anecdotal style and filled with fascinating stories of real children and their parents, It's Nobody's Fault is an indispensable guide for anyone who lives or works with children who need help.
It's Not A Bloody Trend: Understanding Life as an ADHD Adult
by Kat Brown'A sledgehammer of a book putting to bed all the cynicism and misinformation around a condition that affects so many hidden, brilliant people' Professor Tanya Byron'Laugh out loud funny and deeply validating - every person who thinks ADHD isn't real should read this book' Leanne Maskell, author of ADHD: An A to ZNobody should spend their life feeling defective. Everyone deserves to have a user manual to their brain - welcome to yours. Once associated more with hyper boys than adults, ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) is now recognised as a condition in need of a rebrand which affects people of all genders and ages in a multitude of ways. In this enlightening and definitive layman's guide, Kat Brown cheerfully smashes the stereotypes with scientific evidence, historical context, and practical support for ADHD minds across areas that can cause problems, from finances and work to self-medicating, relationships, hormones and self-esteem. Based on Kat's personal experience and extensive interviews with ADHDers and world-leading clinical experts, It's Not A Bloody Trend is for anyone wondering if what's always been 'wrong' with them might just be undiagnosed ADHD.
It's Not A Bloody Trend: Understanding Life as an ADHD Adult
by Kat BrownBIONIC TEXT FORMAT ALSO AVAILABLE'A sledgehammer of a book putting to bed all the cynicism and misinformation around a condition that affects so many hidden, brilliant people' Professor Tanya Byron'Laugh out loud funny and deeply validating - every person who thinks ADHD isn't real should read this book' Leanne Maskell, author of ADHD: An A to ZNobody should spend their life feeling defective. Everyone deserves to have a user manual to their brain - welcome to yours. Once associated more with hyper boys than adults, ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) is now recognised as a condition in need of a rebrand which affects people of all genders and ages in a multitude of ways. In this enlightening and definitive layman's guide, Kat Brown cheerfully smashes the stereotypes with scientific evidence, historical context, and practical support for ADHD minds across areas that can cause problems, from finances and work to self-medicating, relationships, hormones and self-esteem. Based on Kat's personal experience and extensive interviews with ADHDers and world-leading clinical experts, It's Not A Bloody Trend is for anyone wondering if what's always been 'wrong' with them might just be undiagnosed ADHD.
It's Not A Bloody Trend: Understanding Life as an ADHD Adult
by Kat BrownBIONIC TEXT FORMAT ALSO AVAILABLE'A sledgehammer of a book putting to bed all the cynicism and misinformation around a condition that affects so many hidden, brilliant people' Professor Tanya Byron'Laugh out loud funny and deeply validating - every person who thinks ADHD isn't real should read this book' Leanne Maskell, author of ADHD: An A to ZNobody should spend their life feeling defective. Everyone deserves to have a user manual to their brain - welcome to yours. Once associated more with hyper boys than adults, ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) is now recognised as a condition in need of a rebrand which affects people of all genders and ages in a multitude of ways. In this enlightening and definitive layman's guide, Kat Brown cheerfully smashes the stereotypes with scientific evidence, historical context, and practical support for ADHD minds across areas that can cause problems, from finances and work to self-medicating, relationships, hormones and self-esteem. Based on Kat's personal experience and extensive interviews with ADHDers and world-leading clinical experts, It's Not A Bloody Trend is for anyone wondering if what's always been 'wrong' with them might just be undiagnosed ADHD.
It's Not A Bloody Trend: Understanding Life as an ADHD Adult (Bionic Text Edition)
by Kat BrownNobody should spend their life feeling defective. Everyone deserves to have a user manual to their brain - welcome to yours. Once associated more with hyper boys than adults, ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) is now recognised as a condition in need of a rebrand which affects people of all genders and ages in a multitude of ways. In this enlightening and definitive layman's guide, Kat Brown cheerfully smashes the stereotypes with scientific evidence, historical context, and practical support for ADHD minds across areas that can cause problems, from finances and work to self-medicating, relationships, hormones and self-esteem. Based on Kat's personal experience and extensive interviews with ADHDers and world-leading clinical experts, It's Not A Bloody Trend is for anyone wondering if what's always been 'wrong' with them might just be undiagnosed ADHD.
It's Not A Bloody Trend: Understanding Life as an ADHD Adult (Bionic Text Edition)
by Kat Brown'A sledgehammer of a book putting to bed all the cynicism and misinformation around a condition that affects so many hidden, brilliant people' Professor Tanya Byron'Laugh out loud funny and deeply validating - every person who thinks ADHD isn't real should read this book' Leanne Maskell, author of ADHD: An A to ZNobody should spend their life feeling defective. Everyone deserves to have a user manual to their brain - welcome to yours. Once associated more with hyper boys than adults, ADHD (attention deficit hyperactivity disorder) is now recognised as a condition in need of a rebrand which affects people of all genders and ages in a multitude of ways. In this enlightening and definitive layman's guide, Kat Brown cheerfully smashes the stereotypes with scientific evidence, historical context, and practical support for ADHD minds across areas that can cause problems, from finances and work to self-medicating, relationships, hormones and self-esteem. Based on Kat's personal experience and extensive interviews with ADHDers and world-leading clinical experts, It's Not A Bloody Trend is for anyone wondering if what's always been 'wrong' with them might just be undiagnosed ADHD.
It's Not A Diet: The Number One Sunday Times bestseller
by Davinia Taylor'A personal, fun and positive book encouraging dietary diversity and NOT calorie counting' Professor Tim Spector, author of The Diet Myth and Spoon-Fed'Empowering' Hello! magazineWhy stress causes weight gainHow fasting makes you less hungryWhy sunflower oil is unhealthyHow cold showers can cut your carb cravings'If I could give you one bit of advice right now, it would be to take all the energy you're putting into fad diets and put it into becoming the most genuinely healthy version of you. If you've got a plan, you're already halfway there. And now you've got this book, you've got one.'Davinia Taylor was overweight, depressed and unmotivated. She couldn't walk around the block, let alone go for a run or do an exercise class, and she struggled to keep up with her four young sons. In desperation she turned to biohacking to sort her head out - the unexpected bonus was that she lost nearly three stone and has kept it off for years through a series of health tricks from cold showers, to MCT oil, to ancestral eating. She spent tens of thousands of pounds on specialists and Harley Street doctors, trying the most cutting-edge therapies available, only to discover that the true secrets of feeling amazing are very easy and affordable. Start with eating for your mental health, and weight loss is an effortless side effect.Divided into four sections: Mood, Food, Movement and Rest, the book takes a holistic approach to weight loss, reminding you that true health is not just about what you eat. It's Not a Diet concludes with a two-week reset programme to put Davinia's advice into action easily and achievably.Non-Fiction Paperback No.1 bestseller, The Sunday Times, 6th June 2021
It's Not A Diet: The Number One Sunday Times bestseller
by Davinia Taylor'A personal, fun and positive book encouraging dietary diversity and NOT calorie counting' Professor Tim Spector, author of The Diet Myth and Spoon-Fed'Empowering' Hello! magazineWhy stress causes weight gainHow fasting makes you less hungryWhy sunflower oil is unhealthyHow cold showers can cut your carb cravings'If I could give you one bit of advice right now, it would be to take all the energy you're putting into fad diets and put it into becoming the most genuinely healthy version of you. If you've got a plan, you're already halfway there. And now you've got this book, you've got one.'Davinia Taylor was overweight, depressed and unmotivated. She couldn't walk around the block, let alone go for a run or do an exercise class, and she struggled to keep up with her four young sons. In desperation she turned to biohacking to sort her head out - the unexpected bonus was that she lost nearly three stone and has kept it off for years through a series of health tricks from cold showers, to MCT oil, to ancestral eating. She spent tens of thousands of pounds on specialists and Harley Street doctors, trying the most cutting-edge therapies available, only to discover that the true secrets of feeling amazing are very easy and affordable. Start with eating for your mental health, and weight loss is an effortless side effect.Divided into four sections: Mood, Food, Movement and Rest, the book takes a holistic approach to weight loss, reminding you that true health is not just about what you eat. It's Not a Diet concludes with a two-week reset programme to put Davinia's advice into action easily and achievably.Non-Fiction Paperback No.1 bestseller, The Sunday Times, 6th June 2021
It's Not A Diet: The instant Sunday Times bestseller
by Davinia Taylor'A personal, fun and positive book encouraging dietary diversity and NOT calorie counting' Professor Tim Spector, author of The Diet Myth and Spoon-Fed'Empowering' Hello! magazineWhy stress causes weight gainHow fasting makes you less hungryWhy sunflower oil is unhealthyHow cold showers can cut your carb cravings'If I could give you one bit of advice right now, it would be to take all the energy you're putting into fad diets and put it into becoming the most genuinely healthy version of you. If you've got a plan, you're already halfway there. And now you've got this book, you've got one.'Davinia Taylor was overweight, depressed and unmotivated. She couldn't walk around the block, let alone go for a run or do an exercise class, and she struggled to keep up with her four young sons. In desperation she turned to biohacking to sort her head out - the unexpected bonus was that she lost nearly three stone and has kept it off for years through a series of health tricks from cold showers, to MCT oil, to ancestral eating. She spent tens of thousands of pounds on specialists and Harley Street doctors, trying the most cutting-edge therapies available, only to discover that the true secrets of feeling amazing are very easy and affordable. Start with eating for your mental health, and weight loss is an effortless side effect.Divided into four sections: Mood, Food, Movement and Rest, the book takes a holistic approach to weight loss, reminding you that true health is not just about what you eat. It's Not a Diet concludes with a two-week reset programme to put Davinia's advice into action easily and achievably.
It's Not About You, Except When It Is
by Barbara VictoriaBased on the author's own experience as a parent with an addicted child, she provides straight-talking self-preservation tools and techniques for parents of addicts in and out of recovery. An essential book to help parents navigate this confusing and uncharted landscape--in the author's words, "Planet Paradox." Barbara Victoria is a parent who struggled with her own child's addiction. She has been active in Al-Anon for many years.
It's Not All in Your Head
by Steven Taylor Gordon AsmundsonWhere do you go for help when no one believes you're really sick? The doctors can't explain your symptoms, but you know there's something wrong because you can sense it in your body. Living with the specter of an unresolved health issue isn't just painful, it's isolating. The preoccupation and stress it causes can disrupt your career or interfere with personal relationships. If you continually experience symptoms of illness, or worry a lot about disease, you may be suffering from health anxiety--a condition that can produce physical effects of its own, including muscle tension, nausea, and a quickened heart rate. In this compassionate and empowering book, noted psychologists Gordon J. G. Asmundson and Steven Taylor provide simple and accurate self-tests designed to help you understand health anxiety and the role it might be playing in how you feel. Concrete examples and helpful exercises show you how to change thought and behavior patterns that contribute to the aches, pains, and anxiety you're experiencing. The authors also explain how to involve friends and family--and when to seek professional help--as you learn to stay well without worry.
It's Not Always Depression: Working the Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to Your Authentic Self
by Diana Fosha Hilary Jacobs HendelFascinating patient stories and dynamic exercises help you connect to healing emotions, ease anxiety and depression, and discover your authentic self. Sara suffered a debilitating fear of asserting herself. Spencer experienced crippling social anxiety. Bonnie was shut down, disconnected from her feelings. These patients all came to psychotherapist Hilary Jacobs Hendel seeking treatment for depression, but in fact none of them were chemically depressed. Rather, Jacobs Hendel found that they’d all experienced traumas in their youth that caused them to put up emotional defenses that masqueraded as symptoms of depression. Jacobs Hendel led these patients and others toward lives newly capable of joy and fulfillment through an empathic and effective therapeutic approach that draws on the latest science about the healing power of our emotions. Whereas conventional therapy encourages patients to talk through past events that may trigger anxiety and depression, accelerated experiential dynamic psychotherapy (AEDP), the method practiced by Jacobs Hendel and pioneered by Diana Fosha, PhD, teaches us to identify the defenses and inhibitory emotions (shame, guilt, and anxiety) that block core emotions (anger, sadness, fear, disgust, joy, excitement, and sexual excitement). Fully experiencing core emotions allows us to enter an openhearted state where we are calm, curious, connected, compassionate, confident, courageous, and clear. In It’s Not Always Depression, Jacobs Hendel shares a unique and pragmatic tool called the Change Triangle—a guide to carry you from a place of disconnection back to your true self. In these pages, she teaches lay readers and helping professionals alike • why all emotions—even the most painful—have value. • how to identify emotions and the defenses we put up against them. • how to get to the root of anxiety—the most common mental illness of our time. • how to have compassion for the child you were and the adult you are. Jacobs Hendel provides navigational tools, body and thought exercises, candid personal anecdotes, and profound insights gleaned from her patients’ remarkable breakthroughs. She shows us how to work the Change Triangle in our everyday lives and chart a deeply personal, powerful, and hopeful course to psychological well-being and emotional engagement.
It's Not Him, It's You!: How to Take Charge of Your Life and Create the Love and Intimacy You Deserve
by Laura BermanIn this no-nonsense guide to improving your love life, celebrated relationship therapist Dr. Laura Berman helps women who are looking to break up with bad relationship patterns. Berman offers sage advice, touching personal stories, and the psychological evaluation you need to achieve long-lasting romance and sexual satisfaction. It's Not Him, It's You! is perfect for any woman who wants to take control of her love life and create the relationship she deserves. This book is ideal for single women having trouble finding love, as well as women already in relationships with challenges to overcome. Berman gives her reader the tools for everlasting love by identifying their damaging thought patterns, overcoming self-blame and lack of confidence, and acknowledging bad relationship choices so they're never repeated. Whether you&’re looking to rejuvenate your marriage or embark on the love journey of a lifetime It&’s Not Him, It&’s You empowers women not wait for a man to fix things, but to be the change they want to see in their relationships.
It's Not Me, It's You: Break the Blame Cycle. Relationship Better.
by John Kim Vanessa BennettTwo therapists analyze their own relationship to help untangle the common and frustrating barriers many individuals face on the road to a happy, loving, rewarding partnership.Many of the clients who end up in our respective therapist offices thought they were doing relationships right—avoiding the white picket fence, focusing on careers and experiences over babies and legally-binding documents, choosing someone after they “found themselves” first. However, like clockwork, around their early to mid-thirties, these clients show up at our door. Why? For the first time, they realize that they dislike their relationship and are frustrated by their partner but know that another break-up won’t fix things. They recognize a pattern of relationship misery that has them finally looking in the mirror asking, how do you make a relationship last?It took us many relationships, our own inner self journey (which we’re still on), therapy, therapy school, and helping thousands of people with their relationships, to learn to have better ones ourselves. Vanessa woke up at 31, after ending an engagement and moving to Los Angeles. John thought he woke up at 35 after his divorce. But he didn’t truly wake up until he was pushing 40. In It’s Not Me, It’s You, John and Vanessa dissect their own relationship to help readers figure out theirs: what their relationships were like in the past, what traumas they carried into the new relationship, and how they work on growing together to foster a healthy and long-term bond.The surprising truth is falling in love is more about you than your partner. It’s more about challenge and growth than comfort and ease, and roots don’t grow from wishful thinking—they grow in the soil of communication, curiosity, patience, and understanding.It’s Not Me, It’s You is for anyone looking for real advice on relationships that takes both sides into account and discusses relationships with the honesty and clarity we all need.
It's Not My Fault: Victim Mentality and Becoming Response-able
by George A. GoensAll children have hopes and dreams. Their innocent optimism from their early years to working their way through school is inspiring. The responsibilities of educators and parents are to help children be ‘response-able’ in facing the challenges of life. A victim mentality eliminates any hope of successfully meeting their aspirations and dreams. <p><p> Children face obstacles -- some are daunting and others the normal ups and downs of childhood. Parents and others have an obligation to help children grow into maturity and learn that they can act in positive ways in good as well as in hard times. To reject the ability to live a life they have imagined results in a life lost, along with its potential and possibilities. <p><p> To be successful, children cannot adopt a victim mentality. When confronted with challenges, character matters -- responding effectively to address life’s challenges. Schools must teach character development in an environment that holds children responsible and accountable. We all have only one life to live and we are able to respond to achieve an imagined life.
It's Not My Head, It's My Hormones: How to tame your hormones and feel like yourself again
by Dr Marion Gluck"Knowledge is power! We can't all be doctors, but we can all understand our hormone health. This is a practical and inspirational book dedicated to helping women be their mental and physical best at any age." Jeanette WintersonWhat if you're not actually going crazy?What if you don't need antidepressants after all?What if it's not your head, but your hormones?When your hormones are out of control, you lose control, and it can feel like you've turned into someone else entirely. Women's hormonal issues are routinely misdiagnosed and misunderstood by their doctors, but the lucky ones find their way to Dr Marion Gluck's clinic where she empowers them with her unique knowledge on how to take back control of their bodies and minds.With her expert advice from puberty to post-menopause, let Dr Gluck show you how hormones can become your allies in optimising your mental health and physical wellbeing. It's time to feel like yourself again.Dr Marion Gluck is world-renowned as a pioneer in the use of bio-identical hormones for women. She has over 30 years' experience working as a medical doctor with women all around the world. Based in London, she now trains doctors internationally on this life-changing treatment.
It's Not My Head, It's My Hormones: How to tame your hormones and feel like yourself again
by Marion Gluck"Knowledge is power! We can't all be doctors, but we can all understand our hormone health. This is a practical and inspirational book dedicated to helping women be their mental and physical best at any age." Jeanette WintersonWhat if you're not actually going crazy?What if you don't need antidepressants after all?What if it's not your head, but your hormones?When your hormones are out of control, you lose control, and it can feel like you've turned into someone else entirely. Women's hormonal issues are routinely misdiagnosed and misunderstood by their doctors, but the lucky ones find their way to Dr Marion Gluck's clinic where she empowers them with her unique knowledge on how to take back control of their bodies and minds.With her expert advice from puberty to post-menopause, let Dr Gluck show you how hormones can become your allies in optimising your mental health and physical wellbeing. It's time to feel like yourself again.Dr Marion Gluck is world-renowned as a pioneer in the use of bio-identical hormones for women. She has over 30 years' experience working as a medical doctor with women all around the world. Based in London, she now trains doctors internationally on this life-changing treatment.
It's Not OK to Feel Blue: Inspirational people open up about their mental health (And Other Lies)
by Scarlett Curtis'This is the freshest, most honest collection of writings about mental health that I've read...searing wit, blinding passion, bleeding emotion and a fantastic, heroic, glorious refusal to lie down and take it' - Stephen Fry'Reading this book made me feel more normal about the things I feel sometimes...It's a great book; however you're feeling, it'll help' - Ed Sheeran'This is the book I needed when I was little. May this be a leap forward in the much needed conversation around mental health' - Jameela Jamil Everyone has a mental health. So we asked:What does yours mean to you? THE RESULT IS EXTRAORDINARY.Over 60 people have shared their stories. Powerful, funny, moving, this book is here to tell you:It's OK.With writing from: Adam Kay - Alastair Campbell - Alexis Caught - Ben Platt - Bryony Gordon - Candice Carty-Williams - Charlie Mackesy - Charly Cox - Chidera Eggerue - Claire Stancliffe - Davina McCall - Dawn O'Porter - Elizabeth Day - Elizabeth Uviebinené - Ella Purnell - Emilia Clarke - Emma Thompson - Eve Delaney - Fearne Cotton - Gabby Edlin - Gemma Styles - GIRLI (Milly Toomey) - Grace Beverley - Hannah Witton - Honey Ross - Hussain Manawer - Jack Rooke - James Blake - Jamie Flook - Jamie Windust - Jessie Cave - Jo Irwin - Jonah Freud - Jonny Benjamin - Jordan Stephens - Kai-Isaiah Jamal - Kate Weinberg - Kelechi Okafor - Khalil Aldabbas - KUCHENGA - Lauren Mahon - Lena Dunham - Maggie Matic - Martha Lane Fox - Mathew Kollamkulam - Matt Haig - Megan Crabbe - Michael Kitching - Michelle Elman - Miranda Hart - Mitch Price - Mona Chalabi - Montana Brown - Nadia Craddock - Naomi Campbell - Poorna Bell - Poppy Jamie - Reggie Yates - Ripley Parker - Robert Kazandjian - Rosa Mercuriadis - Saba Asif - Sam Smith - Scarlett Curtis - Scarlett Moffatt - Scottee - Sharon Chalkin Feldstein - Shonagh Marie - Simon Amstell - Steve Ali - Tanya Byron - Travon Free - Yomi Adegoke - Yusuf Al Majarhi
It's Not Raining, Daddy, It's Happy
by Benjamin Brooks-DuttonBen Brooks-Dutton's wife - the great love of his life - was knocked down and killed by a car as he walked beside her, pushing their two-year-old son in his buggy. Life changed forever. Suddenly Ben was a widower deep in shock, left to raise their bewildered child alone. In the aftermath Ben searched for guidance from men in similar situations, but it appeared that young widowed fathers don't talk. Well-meaning loved ones admired his strength. The unwritten rule seemed to be to 'shut up, man up and hide your pain'. Lost, broken and afraid of the future, two months after his wife Desreen's death, Ben started a blog with the aim of rejecting outdated conventions of grief and instead opening up about his experiences. Within months Life as a Widower, had received a million hits and had started an all-too-often hushed conversation about the reality of loss and grief. This is the story of a man and a child who lost the woman they so dearly love and what happened in the year that followed. Ben describes the conflicting emotions that come from facing grief head on. He rages against the clich?s used around loss and shows the strange and cruel ways in which grief can take hold. He also charts what it means to become a sole parent to a child who has lost their mother and cannot yet understand the meaning of death. Through the shock and sadness shine moments of hope and insight. So much of what Ben learns comes from watching his son struggle, survive and live, as children do, from moment to moment where hurt can turn to happiness and anger can turn to joy. This is a story of loss, heartbreak and courage. At its heart is the funny, infuriating and life affirming relationship between a father and son and their ongoing love for an extraordinary woman.
It's Not You, It's Him
by Georgia WitkinYou're smart and cute and fun to be around. So naturally you wonder why you're still single. Well, here's a news flash: It's Not You, It's Him!This book will make dating fun again--and help you find the love you always dreamed of"Why is this book for single women? Because we think about relationships, and talk about relationships, much more than single men do. And when things go wrong, we're also much more likely to blame ourselves! We ask ourselves, "What's wrong with me?" "What did I do?" "What should I have done differently?" Well, maybe, just maybe you are not the problem. Maybe, just maybe, you'd still be single even if you were perfect. Maybe the men you're meeting have the problems. Maybe it's not you, it's him!Actually, there's no maybe about it. Your aunt in Florida, your married brother, and your gym friends are wrong--you are not single because you're too picky, too pushy, or a princess. Besides, even if you were, picky, pushy princesses get married every day. And so will you. So let's get real and get you the life you want." --Dr. Georgia Witkin, from...It's Not You, It's Him In her upbeat new "rules" for finding lasting love, Dr. Georgia Witkin shows that the secret to dating without all the pain is to assume that you are perfectly lovable exactly as you are. When a good date goes bad, the problem is never you. It's him!Suddenly dating is so simple. You will never again ask "why didn't he call?" It doesn't matter. You will never ask, "How should I change?" You don't have to. Instead you will do what you want, go where you want, wear what you want, and it will only make you more perfect. You will take everything dates say and do as information about them--not you. You will have zero tolerance when you're getting zero. You will feel happy, in control, and actually enjoy dating again. And before too long, the new you will fall wildly in love with a man who is just perfect enough to find you irresistible.
It's Not You, It's the Dishes (originally published as Spousonomics)
by Paula Szuchman Jenny AndersonYour marriage is fine, right? Sure, there are showdowns over who unloads more dishes, and some simmering discontent over who drives more car pools, cleans more dust bunnies, and keeps the social wheels of your existence greased. The sex is good, though you can't remember when you last had it. Come to think of it, you're plagued by a nagging sense that marriage used to be so much more fun. Marriage can be a mysterious, often irrational business. But the key, propose Paula Szuchman and Jenny Anderson in this incomparable and engaging book, is to think like an economist. We all have limited time, money, and energy, but we must allocate these resources efficiently. It's Not You, It's the Dishes is a clear-eyed, rational route to demystifying your disagreements and improving your relationship. Smart, funny, deeply researched, and refreshingly realistic, It's Not You, It's the Dishes cuts through the noise of emotions, egos, and tired relationship clichés to solve the age-old riddle of a happy, healthy marriage. Originally published as SpousonomicsFrom the Trade Paperback edition.
It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People
by Ramani DurvasulaINSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLERFrom clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships Dr. Ramani Durvasula, a guide to protecting and healing yourself from the daily harms of narcissismAN OPEN FIELD PUBLICATION FROM MARIA SHRIVERIt&’s not always easy to tell when you&’re dealing with a narcissistic person. One day they draw you in with their charm and charisma, the next they gaslight you, wreck your self-esteem, and leave you wondering, What should I have done differently? As Dr. Ramani explains in It&’s Not You, the answer is: absolutely nothing.Just as a tiger can&’t change its stripes, a narcissist will not stop manipulating and invalidating you, no matter how much you try to appease them. The first step toward healing from their toxic influence—and to protect yourself from future harm—is to accept that you are not to blame for their behavior.Drawing on more than two decades of studying the landscape of narcissism and working with survivors, Dr. Ramani explores how narcissists hijack our well-being and offers a healing path forward. Unpacking the oft-misunderstood personality, she reveals the telltale behavioral patterns that indicate you may be dealing with a narcissist. Along the way, you&’ll learn how to become gaslight resistant, chip away at the trauma bonds that keep you stuck in the cycle, grieve the loss of these painful relationships, create and maintain realistic boundaries, discern unhelpful behaviors from narcissistic behaviors, and recover your sense of self after constant invalidation.Thriving after, or even during, a narcissistic relationship can be challenging, but It&’s Not You shows you it is possible. Dr. Ramani invites you to stop blaming yourself and trying to change the narcissistic person, and to start giving yourself permission to let go of their hold on you and finally embrace your true self.
It's Not Your Fault: The Subconscious Reasons We Self-Sabotage and How to Stop
by Laura K. ConnellA guide to help readers uncover the subconscious reasons they hold themselves back along with an exploration of the ways negative childhood experiences have impacted their lives and fed into the problem.We are sometimes our own worst enemies, sabotaging our success and with it our chance for lasting happiness and opportunities for personal and professional fulfillment. It&’s Not Your Fault helps readers uncover the subconscious reasons they hold themselves back. These blind spots were often created in childhood as coping mechanisms in response to trauma. Rather than teaching tactics that ignore or give surface attention to adverse childhood events, the book lovingly guides readers to explore the ways these events have impacted their lives and how this knowledge will help them access true transformation. Readers will be relieved to discover that it's not a lack of willpower that has held them back, but a lack of self-knowledge instead. Those who have been let down by traditional therapeutic techniques know that behavior modification doesn&’t work for everyone. Simply doing things differently while staying the same on the inside might help for the short term, but before long old patterns emerge. Once they decide to get serious about change, however, and stop tweaking habits in the hope it will result in lasting transformation, they can create a life by design instead of default. It takes work, an internal excavation, and Laura comes alongside the reader as a trusted guide who has been where they are now. She provides the tools and anecdotal evidence to show them how to overcome the pain of self-sabotage and create the life they desire.
It's Not a Perfect World, but I'll Take It: 50 Life Lessons for Teens Like Me Who Are Kind of (You Know) Autistic
by Jennifer RoseJennifer Rose is autistic. She’s also a college student who loves reading, writes fan fiction, and wants to be on TV someday. She sees the world a little differently than most people around her. She’s had trouble coping with school and she’s struggled with bullies, mean girls, and her own feelings of bitterness and inferiority. Through it all, with the help of her parents, she’s learned a few lessons: #5: There are many ways to make a difference. #20: You won’t be perfect at everything, not even the things you do best. #22: Down times will be bouncing up soon . . . #23: . . . but meanwhile, try to enjoy what you have. #44: Talk about your feelings, even when it’s hard. #45: Learn to take jokes, even your dad’s. It's Not a Perfect World but I’ll Take It is an uplifting ode to being different. Told with irresistible honesty and humor, Rose’s fifty bite-sized stories will have teens and adults nodding in recognition and discovering new things about themselves.