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Love and Lies: An Essay on Truthfulness, Deceit, and the Growth and Care of Erotic Love
by Clancy MartinA provocative and unsettling look at the nature of love and deceptionIs it possible to love well without lying? At least since Socrates's discourse on love in Plato's Symposium, philosophers have argued that love can lead us to the truth—about ourselves and the ones we love. But in the practical experience of erotic love—and perhaps especially in marriage—we find that love and lies often work hand in hand, and that it may be difficult to sustain long-term romantic love without deception, both of oneself and of others. Drawing on contemporary philosophy, psychoanalysis and cognitive neuroscience, his own personal experience, and such famed and diverse writers on love as Shakespeare, Stendhal, Proust, Adrienne Rich, and Raymond Carver, Clancy Martin—himself divorced twice and married three times—explores how love, truthfulness, and deception work together in contemporary life and society. He concludes that learning how to love and loving well inevitably requires lying, but also argues that the best love relationships draw us slowly and with difficulty toward honesty and trust.Love and Lies is a relentlessly honest book about the difficulty of love, which is certain to both provoke and entertain.
Love and Loneliness at Work: An Inspirational Guide for Consultants, Leaders and Other Professionals
by Birgitte Bonnerup Annemette HasselagerLove and loneliness, in both their presence and absence, are key aspects of our lives – including our working lives. Love and Loneliness at Work offers an accessible and practical starting point for understanding the connections between emotions, individual working life and organizations, focusing on love and loneliness. The book begins with an engaging chapter-length case study that illuminates the themes discussed. Taking a psychodynamic perpective, Bonnerup and Hasselager examine love and how it influences our feelings about tasks, organizations and participation, as well as uniquely exploring pairs in working life. The book explores loneliness as an inner state of mind, as an aspect of the professional role and as a group dynamic experience, and assesses the psychological burden of feeling lonely in an organization. Bonnerup and Hasselager also provide an overview of key theoretical concepts, including the unconscious, anxiety, libido, projective processes, and the concepts of inner and outer self, providing the tools required to examine, understand and work with the emotional strength and vulnerability of an organization. This book provides unique insights into how understanding these feelings can help leaders, decision makers and employees contribute to healthier and happier workplaces. It will be an essential guide for coaches in practice and in training, as well as leaders and managers, human resources (HR) and learning and development (L&D) professionals and consultants within organizations seeking to expand their understanding of organizational dynamics. With its strong theoretical base, it will also be of interest to academics and students of coaching, coaching psychology, psychodynamic consulting, organizational psychology, leadership and management and organizational change, and to anyone seeking an insight into the emotional dynamics of working life.
Love and Loss: The Roots of Grief and its Complications
by Colin Murray ParkesLoving and grieving are two sides of the same coin: we cannot have one without risking the other. Only by understanding the nature and pattern of loving can we begin to understand the problems of grieving. Conversely, the loss of a loved person can teach us much about the nature of love. Love and Loss, the result of a lifetime's work, has important implications for the study of attachment and bereavement. In this volume, Colin Murray Parkes reports his innovative research that enables us to bring together knowledge of childhood attachments and problems of bereavement, resulting in a new way of thinking about love, bereavement and other losses. Areas covered include: patterns of attachment and grief loss of a parent, child or spouse in adult life social isolation and support. The book concludes by looking at disorders of attachment and considering bereavement in terms of its implications on love, loss, and change in a wider context. Illuminating the structure and focus of thinking about love and loss, this book sheds light on a wide range of psychological issues. It will be essential reading for professionals working with bereavement, as well as graduate students of psychology, psychiatry, and sociology.
Love and Loss in Life and in Treatment (Psychoanalysis in a New Key Book Series)
by Linda B. SherbyHave you ever wondered what a therapist really thinks? Have you ever wondered if a therapist truly cares about her patients? Have you tried to imagine the unimaginable, the loss of the person most dear to you? Is it true that `tis better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all? ` Love and loss are a ubiquitous part of life, bringing the greatest joys and the greatest heartaches. In one way or another all relationships end. People leave, move on, die. Loss is an ever-present part of life. In Love and Loss, Linda B. Sherby illustrates that in order to grow and thrive, we must learn to mourn, to move beyond the person we have lost while taking that person with us in our minds. Love, unlike loss, is not inevitable but, she argues, no satisfying life can be lived without deeply meaningful relationships. The focus of Love and Loss is how patients' and therapists' independent experiences of love and loss, as well as the love and loss that they experience in the treatment room, intermingle and interact. There are always two people in the consulting room, both of whom are involved in their own respective lives, as well as the mutually responsive relationship that exists between them. Love and loss in the life of one of the parties affects the other, whether that affect takes place on a conscious or unconscious level. Love and Loss is unique in two respects.The first is its focus on the analyst's current life situation and how that necessarily affects both the patient and the treatment. The second is Sherby's willingness to share the personal memoir of her own loss which she has interwoven with extensive clinical material to clearly illustrate the effect the analyst's current life circumstance has on the treatment. Writing as both a psychoanalyst and a widow, Linda B. Sherby makes it possible for the reader to gain an inside view of the emotional experience of being an analyst, making this book of interest to a wide audience. Professionals from psychoanalysts and psychotherapists and bereavement specialists through students in all the mental health fields to the public in general, will resonate and learn from this heartfelt and straightforward book.
Love and Lust: On the Psychoanalysis of Romantic and Sexual Emotions
by Theodor ReikThese selections from Theodor Reik's work concern the love life and sexual activity of men and women. Reik establishes the theme of this work in the following way: "The sex urge hunts for lustful pleasure; love is in search of joy and happiness." Over a third of this volume had never been published in book form before it originally appeared half a century ago. Its appearance in paperback, for the first time, is a welcome addition to current debates, liberated from ideological and political constraints.The first part of the book is so far ahead of its time that it is still current. It reveals Reik's departure from Freud's theories and from those of most of his contemporaries in psychology and psychoanalysis. Part Two is a greatly abbreviated version of Masochism in Modern Man, retaining those parts with a direct bearing on the subject of this volume. Part Three offers two essays on why people remain single. In the author's usual direct style, they deal with the marriage shyness of the male and the psychological fears and resistance of both men and women to acceptance of the marriage bond. Part Four is Reik at his wisest. "The first lady whom I asked to read the manuscript said smilingly: 'Many of your impressions about us (women) are correct. No man should read the book!' A few seconds later, she said: 'Or rather, every man should read the book!'"As Paul Roazen noted, "in contrast to some of Freud's other followers, Reik was prescient early on in distinguishing self-love from narcissism. Reik believed that genuine self-regard was the ultimate basis for developing the capacity to love."At times Reik seems to defend women, at times to critique them. Yet he writes with sympathy and understanding. He challenges other authorities who have written on the subject, but he also agrees with many of them. Love and Lust is civilized writing at its most provocative. Reik is authoritative, and his book reflects the glow of a rich personali
Love and Other Alien Experiences
by Kerry WinfreyI'm never going outside again. Mallory hasn't left the house in sixty-seven days--since the day her dad left. She attends her classes via webcam, rarely leaves her room (much to her brother's chagrin), and spends most of her time watching The X-Files or chatting with the always obnoxious BeamMeUp on New Mexico's premier alien message board. But when she's shockingly nominated for homecoming queen, her life takes a surprising turn. She slowly begins to open up to the world outside. And maybe if she can get her popular jock neighbor Brad Kirkpatrick to be her homecoming date, her classmates will stop calling her a freak. In this heartwarming and humorous debut, Mallory discovers first love and the true meaning of home--just by taking one small step outside her house.
Love and Other Emotions: On the Process of Feeling
by Jason W. BrownThis book is an account of the psychology of romantic love in the context of a theory of emotions. The account develops out of studies in brain psychology and the extension to topics in process-philosophy, such as the nature of value and belief, and the central role of feeling in mental process. The approach is subjectivist, that is, from the internal standpoint, and in this respect it differs greatly from the externalist and objectivist trends in modern cognitive science and empiricist philosophy. Love is the ultimate in value, so that a theory of love is also a theory of the nature of value and its relation to feeling, belief, and to drive and desire. The role of intention, reason, and appraisal is critiqued. The relation to other feelings, such as jealousy, envy, anger, loss and grief is discussed in terms of a general theory of emotion and the basis in a process account of the mind/brain state.
The Love and Respect Devotional: 52 Weeks to Experience Love and Respect in Your Marriage
by Dr. Emerson EggerichsIn this couples' devotional based on the classic bestseller, Eggerichs surveyed thousands of couples to develop 52 devotionals around the three cycles that are at the heart of Love and Respect. Emerson Eggerichs has transformed marriages around the world with his biblically based approach to understanding the love that she most desires and the respect that he desperately needs. Now, in this long-awaited devotional based on Love & Respect, Emerson has created an experience for couples that is effective, flexible, and life changing. To build this couples devotional, Eggerichs has taken the top concerns that surfaced in a survey of thousands of couples and has developed 52 devotionals around the three cycles that are at the heart of Love and Respect. On one occasion the couple will be talking about how to stop the Crazy Cycle or keep it at bay. The next devotional will discuss a concept built upon the Rewarded Cycle, which stresses the ultimate purpose for marriage. And the next may have both people talking about ways to use the Energizing Cycle in their efforts to love and respect each other. This long-awaited devotional:Contains 52 devotions specifically guided to couples&’ most common concernsCan be done weekly or at your chosen paceIs husband and wife friendly, written to ensure both are comfortable in the processSupplemental video studies are also available for purchase With this wealth of new material and video devotionals available online, The Love & Respect Devotional will be indispensable to anyone wishing to improve their marital relationship.
Love and Romance in Britain, 1918�1970
by Alana Harris Timothy Willem JonesThe new histories of love and romance offered within this edited collection illustrate the many changes, but also the surprising continuities in understandings of love, romance, affection, intimacy and sex from the First World War until the beginning of the Women's Liberation movement.
Love and Sex in a New Relationship
by Cate CampbellLove and Sex in a New Relationship explores leaving a long relationship and starting a new one, with all the complexities that entails. Using her experience as a relationship therapist, Cate Campbell takes the reader through the journey of loss and renewal, examining the dynamics involved in the end and beginning of a relationship, and how to give new relationships the best chance of survival. Focusing on three main relationship issues, the book considers: how to end a relationship and manage ongoing contact with an ex; how to understand what went wrong in previous relationships; and how to overcome everyday relationship problems and make relationships thrive. Taking into account the effect of technology and social media, and how to make online dating work, the book offers a distinctly modern take on relationships. Similarly, the spectrum of sexuality, gender and sexual relationships is addressed, with many different examples included throughout the book. With practical advice, case studies, quizzes and exercises to help identify and remedy a variety of problems that can occur at any stage of a relationship, Love and Sex in a New Relationship will provide an essential resource for relationship counsellors and their clients.
Love and Sex with Robots: The Evolution of Human-Robot Relationships (Lecture Notes In Computer Science Ser. #10237)
by David LevyLove, marriage, and sex with robots? Not in a million years? Maybe a whole lot sooner!A leading expert in artificial intelligence, David Levy argues that the entities we once deemed cold and mechanical will soon become the objects of real companionship and human desire. He shows how automata have evolved and how human interactions with technology have changed over the years. Levy explores many aspects of human relationships—the reasons we fall in love, why we form emotional attachments to animals and virtual pets, and why these same attachments could extend to love for robots. Levy also examines how society's ideas about what constitutes normal sex have changed—and will continue to change—as sexual technology becomes increasingly sophisticated. Shocking, eye-opening, provocative, and utterly convincing, Love and Sex with Robots is compelling reading for anyone with an open mind.
Love and the Soul: Creating a Future for Earth
by Robert SardelloWith economies in peril, war in the Middle East, genocides, global warming, and a host of other grim phenomena, the world has never seemed so besieged. The solution, says Robert Sardello, lies with the individual. In this timely, thoughtful book, he explains how the soul can engage with the outer world to produce radical change. Because we think of the world as a vast mechanism and behave as mechanical objects in it, the results are devastation and dysfunction. The key is to learn to identify with the plight of the Earth by developing a true sense of individual imagination and conscious awareness of inner purpose and beauty in conjunction with the soul of the world. Sardello shows how to achieve this awareness and bring what is inside out into the world, inspiring balance and stability. Using the Grail legend and the myth of Sophia--known as the Soul of the World--as well as writings by Jung, James Hillman, and Rudolf Steiner,Love and the Soulhelps readers imagine a revitalized Earth by exploring the significance of grieving, the transformative power of radical receptivity, the creative power of dreaming, and a new basis for community.
Love and Therapy: In Relationship (The\united Kingdom Council For Psychotherapy Ser.)
by Divine CharuraSigmund Freud noted the importance of love in the healing of the human psyche. So many of life's distresses have their origins in lack of love, disruption of love, or trauma. People naturally seek love in their lives to feel complete. Is therapy a substitute for love? Or is it love by another name? This important book looks at the place of love in therapy and whether it is the curative factor. The authors continually stress, however, that within psychotherapy both ethical and professional boundaries should govern this 'Love' at all times in order for it to be experienced as healing and therapeutic. This book offers explorations of the complexity of love from different modalities: psychoanalytic, humanistic, person-centred, psychosexual, family and systemic, transpersonal, existential, and transcultural. The discussions challenge therapists and other allied professionals to think about their practice, ethics, and boundaries.
Love and War in Intimate Relationships: Connection, Disconnection, and Mutual Regulation in Couple Therapy (Norton Series on Interpersonal Neurobiology)
by Marion Solomon Stan TatkinNeuroscience and couples therapy come together to help couples break patterns of bad behavior. What happens between partners that makes love turn to war? How can couples therapists help deescalate the battles? Two leading therapists apply the latest neuroscience research on emotional arousal to help couples regulate each other's emotions, maintain secure attachment, and foster positive, enduring relationships. The neurobiologically-grounded and sensitive approach set forth by Solomon and Tatkin in this book is sure to transform the way clinicians understand and treat couples in therapy.
Love and Will
by Rollo MayAccording to Rollo May, the heart of man's dilemma is the failure to understand the real meaning of love and will, their source and interrelation. Bringing fresh insight to these concepts, May shows, in this book, how we can attain a deeper consciousness.
Love as a Way of Life: Seven Keys to Transforming Every Aspect of Your Life
by Gary ChapmanAt home, at work or with friends, the quality of our relationships defines who we are, and can govern our happiness, success and personal fulfillment. Gary Chapman, author of the multi-million bestseller THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES, shows how we can improve all our relationships with friends, partners, family, colleagues, even strangers by understanding the simple secrets of love. By placing the seven essential characteristics of love -- kindness, patience, forgiveness, humility, courtesy, giving and honesty -- at the centre of your life, you will find your relationships transformed, everyday struggles relieved and sense of happiness and purpose enhanced.
The Love as a Way of Life Devotional: A Ninety-day Adventure That Makes Love a Daily Habit
by Elisa Stanford Gary ChapmanStart Developing the Best Habit of All. To become a person who consistently loves others, you first need to be a loving person. In this companion devotional to Love As a Way of Life, you'll find inspiration for letting love guide the way you respond to others in every situation. The daily readings capture God's wisdom and direction in practicing the seven traits of a loving person. Compelling stories and biblical illustrations will show you how to live out the characteristics of kindness, patience, forgiveness, courtesy, humility, generosity, and honesty. These ninety short devotionals--perfect for reading on your own, with your spouse, or with a friend over coffee--deliver the inspiration and encouragement you need to make love a lasting habit. Whatever your love language, you'll enjoy richer, more rewarding relationships as you embark on an exciting daily adventure in loving others.
Love at Goon Park: Harry Harlow and the Science of Affection
by Deborah BlumIn the early twentieth century, affection between parents and their children was discouraged-psychologists thought it would create needy kids, and doctors thought it would spread infectious disease. It took a revolution in psychology to overturn these beliefs and prove that touch ensures emotional and intellectual health. In Love at Goon Park, Pulitzer Prize winner Deborah Blum charts this profound cultural shift by tracing the story of Harry Harlow-the man who studied neglect and its life-altering consequences on primates in his lab. The biography of both a man and an idea, Love at Goon Park ultimately invites us to examine ourselves and the way we love.
Love between Equals: Relationship as a Spiritual Path
by Polly Young-EisendrathLearn how to successfully negotiate conflicts and deepen our most intimate relationships in this practical and thoughtful guide by an experienced Buddhist teacher, psychotherapist, and couples counselor. A committed relationship, as most people see it today, is a partnership of equals who share values and goals, a team united by love and dedicated to each other’s growth on every level. This contemporary model for coupledom requires real intention and work, and, more often than not, the traditional archetypes of relationships experienced by our parents and grandparents fail us or seem irrelevant. Utilizing the wisdom of her years of personal and professional practice, Young-Eisendrath dismantles our idealized projections about love, while revealing how mindfulness and communication can help us identify and honor the differences with our partners and strengthen our bonds. These practical and time-tested guidelines are rooted in sound understanding of modern psychology and offer concrete ideas and the necessary tools to reinforce and reinvigorate our deepest relationships.
Love Bombing: Reset Your Child's Emotional Thermostat
by Oliver James"Love Bombing" is a radical new method for resetting the emotional thermostats of troubled children and their parents, setting them on a much happier trajectory. It is simple to do, easily explained and works for both severe and mild problems from aged three to early teenage. Many, if not most, parents feel that their children may have missed out in some way during the early years. Offering a simple, relatively trouble-free self-help method for putting that right is what parents are waiting for. "This book is written in highly accessible language", assures Oliver James. "The method is explained as simply as possible, illustrated with cases". "Love Bombing is a very simple technique which helps most children from aged three to early teenage. Because so many parents are, or have had, periods of living very busy or miserable or complicated lives, most of us need to reconnect with our children from time to time. Love Bombing does the job," explains James.
Love by Design: 6 Ingredients to Build a Lifetime of Love
by Dr. Sara Nasserzadeh&“Revolutionize your relationship," redefine romance, and build the loving connections you yearn for with this new paradigm for love that will help couples who feel disillusioned, disconnected, or unfulfilled (Dr. Pepper Schwartz). Many of us were raised with the idea that true love means finding our "other half" and that a spark is the best foundation for successful long-term partnerships and marriages. But what if this understanding is flawed? Grounded in two decades of original research and work with couples from around the world, Love by Design introduces a groundbreaking new foundation for love: The Emergent Love Model. As Dr. Nasserzadeh knows, successful partnerships do not thrive on love, at least as we know it. Instead of chasing our butterflies we need to cultivate six core relational ingredients that make it possible for love to emerge: Attraction: What do you like and value about each other? Respect: How do you keep each other&’s needs and priorities in mind? Trust: Do you know that you will show up for each other consistently? Compassion: Can you honor the other&’s emotional experience without making it about you? Shared vision: Where are you committed to going together? Loving behaviors: How do you show your partner they&’re special to you? Offering dozens of exercises and reflection prompts, this groundbreaking book—perfect for fans of 8 Rules of Love or The Love Prescription—will give readers a new foundation for their coupledom—one that will help your coupledom thrive for a lifetime.
The Love Crisis: Hit-and-Run Lovers, Jugglers, Sexual Stingies, Unreliables, Kinkies, & Other Typical Men Today
by Carol BotwinThe renowned sexologist takes the mystery out of male behavior by illuminating the inner workings of twenty-one typical lovers whom women tangle with today. Are you one of the millions of single (and even sometimes married) women wondering, What is wrong with men today? If so, The Love Crisis is the field guide to contemporary males that you&’ve been waiting for. The Love Crisis classifies men according to how they behave in a relationship. For example: Hit-and-Run Lovers, Jugglers, Sexually Stingy Lovers, Bastards, Kinkies, and more—twenty-one categories in total. A chapter describing the &“Normal Man&” makes this rarity easier to discover when spotted in real life. This lighthearted yet serious guide will help both men and women identify and then defeat the increasing difficulties they face in finding love today. &“Carol Botwin is one of the best writers about love, sex, and relationships—lively and informative with clear, straightforward solutions!&” —Steven Carter and Julia Sokol, New York Times–bestselling authors of Men Who Can&’t Love
Love, Fear, and Health
by Jonathan Hunter Robert MaunderCan the way in which we relate to others seriously affect our health? Can understanding those attachments help health care providers treat us better? In Love, Fear, and Health, psychiatrists Robert Maunder and Jonathan Hunter draw on evidence from neuroscience, stress physiology, social psychology, and evolutionary biology to explain how understanding attachment - the ways in which people seek security in their close relationships - can transform patient outcomes.Using attachment theory, Maunder and Hunter provide a practical, clinically focused introduction to the influence of attachment styles on an individual's risk of disease and the effectiveness of their interactions with health care providers. Drawing on more than fifty years of combined experience as health care providers, teachers, and researchers, they explain in clear language how health care workers in all disciplines can use this knowledge to meet their patients' needs better and to improve their health.
Love First: A Family's Guide to Intervention (Love First Family Recovery)
by Jeff Jay Debra JayThis revised and expanded third edition of the gold-standard for intervention provides clear steps for harnessing the power of family, friends, and professionals to create a better future with loved ones suffering from addiction. Over the course of the last twenty years, Love First has become the go-to intervention guide for tens of thousands of families. This trailblazing book empowers and equips families and friends to use the power of love and honesty to give their addicted loved ones a chance to reach for help. Updated with the latest addiction science as well as insights gained from decades of front-line experience in family interventions, this revised and expanded edition contains practical tools for taking the next step together: transforming the intervention team into an ongoing community of loving support, lasting accountability, and lifelong recovery.