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Family Constellations and Trauma: With patience, love, mindfulness and gentleness Transforming traumatic experiences in a healing way
by Marc BacoA supportive book for those who want to know: How you can work cautiously and with patience on your traumatic experiences. How to find and activate resources. How you can quickly bring feelings and behavior triggered by trauma into balance. How you can overwrite your traumatic experiences step by step with the help of family constellations. How you can transform trauma in the long term with family constellations.
Family First: Your Step-by-Step Plan for Creating a Phenomenal Family
by Dr. Phil McGrawDo you feel that your family is not what it used to be, or what it has the potential to be? Do you worry that the parenting decisions you're making today may be scarring your child for life? Do you sometimes feel you are in a tug-of-war with the world over who will shape your child's values and beliefs?With Family First: Your Step-by-Step Plan for Creating a Phenomenal Family, Dr. Phil offers a new classic on family life—and gives parents real answers and a plan for being the most positive and effective parents possible. Starting right now, you can begin to make realistic choices and take day-to-day actions that can make your family phenomenal. You must decide that you will lead your family with strength and love and that peace and joy are not just for the people next door or on TV. They're for your family. In Family First, Dr. Phil gives it to parents straight: even in this fast-paced world your family should be the center of your life and your child's life. Parenting is the most important and noble act you will ever undertake, yet American families are threatened like never before from the inside as well as the outside—many of us fight too much, don't get involved enough in our children's lives, or get bogged down in life's daily struggles instead of keeping our eye on the big picture of our family's well-being. Dr. Phil has been working with families for over twenty-five years to help them repair the fissures that have fractured their home lives. In Family First, he provides a proven action plan to help parents determine the strengths and weaknesses of their parenting style. His seven tools for purposeful parenting cover the most important elements for any parent: parenting for success—for the purpose of raising cooperative, caring, and competent children. Exercises, scripts, assessments, solutions for specific problems, and precise directions for implementing the steps you need to take are all included in this landmark work. Dr. Phil shows parents how to make changes now—how to put a stop to your children's tantrums; talk to them about peer pressure or self-esteem; instill values like integrity, honesty, and respect for other people; and bring order back to your house. If you want your child to have a happy, fulfilled life, you must open your eyes to the crucial role you play in his or her development. Most importantly, Dr. Phil's new book offers you and your family hope—for a phenomenal home life now, and a productive, fulfilling future for your children. As Dr. Phil says, you are not just raising children, you are also raising adults, and everything you do today impacts what kind of adult your child will become. You are building the future.
Family Gratitude Project: Raise a Thankful Child with 52 Fun Activities and Crafts for Every Season
by Joanna GrzeszczakA month-by-month guide to fostering an attitude of gratitude as a familyGratitude is a key component of happiness and mindfulness. But not only for adults. Children benefit greatly from learning, understanding and appreciating gratefulness. An interactive journal and activity book for parents and youngsters to enjoy together, A Year of Gratitude is the perfect tool for building a mindful foundation that will last a lifetime.Including 52 step-by-step activities with full-color photos, this book offers strategies for cultivating gratitude and strengthening parent-child bonds every week of the year. Discover a variety of fun, family-oriented projects and activities including Valentines Day Cookies, Family Gratitude Jars, DIY Thank You Cards, Nature Appreciation Walks, and much more!
The Family Guide to Getting Over OCD: Reclaim Your Life and Help Your Loved One
by Jonathan S. AbramowitzWhen a loved one has OCD, it's a constant struggle. It hurts to see your spouse so anxious or your teen spending so much time alone. You've tried logic, reassurance, even accommodating endless rituals--but, too often, these well-meaning attempts actually make OCD worse. Psychologist Jonathan Abramowitz has worked with countless families affected by OCD, and he understands the strain. He also knows you can turn things around. Grounded in state-of-the-art treatment research, this compassionate guide helps you change your own behavior to support your loved one's recovery. By gently but firmly encouraging the person you care about to face their fears, you can stop being controlled by the disorder, disentangle yourself from unhealthy patterns, and see your whole family grow more confident and hopeful. Vivid stories, dos and don'ts, and practical tools (which you can download and print for repeated use) help you follow the step-by-step strategies in this life-changing book.
The Family Guide to Preventing Elder Abuse: How to Protect Your Parents—and Yourself
by Thomas Lee WrightPractical Advice for Taking Care of Loved Ones as They Get Older The rapid aging of the American population and its accompanying epidemic of dementia and Alzheimer's disease has brought about an awareness of the increasing vulnerability of our elders. Taking care of our parents and protecting them from exploitation and abuse at the hands of others can evolve into a virtual full-time occupation, especially among today’s baby boomers. The Family Guide to Preventing Elder Abuse provides a practical manual to help prepare the reader for the challenges that arise as our parents begin to lose their independence. In each chapter of this guide, a nationally recognized expert provides specific advice regarding effective actions that can be taken in order to protect loved ones in every area of their lives. They offer practical answers to such questions as: What qualities should you look for in a caretaker? What are the pros and cons of trusts and guardianships? Who do you go to if you suspect abuse of any kind? How do you best protect your own rights so that you can preserve the rights of your loved one? What should you know about dealing with hospital staff when it comes to making end-of-life decisions?The Family Guide to Preventing Elder Abuse addresses every personal, medical, financial, and legal consideration that may arise for adult children of a senior citizen.
Family Inc
by Andrew FriedmanDoes your work life "balance" feel anything but? Most people will probably tell you that you need to be more strict about separating your office and home lives, and WHATEVER YOU DO, DON'T TAKE THE OFFICE HOME WITH YOU! To this, husband-and-wife authors Caitlin and Andrew Friedman say: Think again! In Family Inc. , they share how they were able to use the organizational strategies they'd relied on in their professional lives to bring the joy-and yes, the sanity-back into their home. Caitlin and Andrew Friedman met while working at a thriving midsize PR firm. Fifteen years of marriage, twins, a house, and three career changes later, they found themselves overwhelmed by their daily responsibilities. In this invaluable guide to making your household run more smoothly, the Friedmans take listeners step by step through a process of reenvisioning their domestic lives as well-run, successful business ventures. According to the Friedmans, by introducing such simple activities as family meetings, job descriptions, and regular "employee evaluations," it's amazing how simple and stress-free life suddenly can become. Using the tools offered in this audiobook, you will soon see tensions eased, household tasks completed, and family downtime rediscovered.
Family Law Boot Camp: The Essential Guide to Representing Yourself in a Colorado Family Law Case
by Alisha Taibo CoombeAre you going through a divorce, custody or other family law case? Are you representing yourself or wishing you understood the process? Family Law Boot Camp explains every step of the process without all the legal jargon at a fraction of the cost of calling an attorney. This thorough and eminently helpful guide takes you from the very start of your case choosing which forms you need through your closing argument in trial, with citations to real law you will need to use. You will learn how to draft legal documents, select witnesses, object, and enter evidence at trial. While the author of this book is based in Colorado and uses Colorado law as the premise of this book, Family Law Boot Camp will help you understand every step of your case so you can prepare and present it in the most effective way possible. A must-have for anyone involved in a family law matter. In this book you will find: -A helpful glossary of legal terms -Sample legal documents such as witness disclosure -Tips on dealing with a difficult opposing counsel -Advice from other attorneys and judges -A sample trial plan, trial outline, opening statement, closing argument, and objections! This concise, easy-to-understand guide will help you navigate your case effectively and painlessly.
The Family Lawyer’s Guide to Separation and Divorce: How to Get What You Both Want
by Laura NaserYour family lawyer in a book.Whether you are married or living together – with children or without, if you are thinking about or are in the process of splitting up, this book is for you. When a relationship breaks down it’s hugely stressful and emotional – and often very confusing. Who gets to keep what? Will I ever see my kids? What needs to happen and when? What if things get nasty? This all-encompassing book, by family lawyer Laura Naser with years of experience helping couples reach the best solution possible, is here to bring calm and clarity, whatever the situation. She will guide you through the entire process from making sure this is what you really want and knowing what’s at stake, through to detailing all your options (whether you are married or not), what to do and in what order, and with a specific focus on co-parenting, managing money, social media, effective communication and how to resolve tricky issues that come up along the way. See this book as your trusted companion and guide - everything you need to know to get through this and thrive is right here.
Family Matters: Making the Right Financial Decision for Your Filipino Family
by Belen Loreto GrandProviding financial assistance to family members in the Philippines can be stressful and take a toll on health and family life. For Filipino emigrants, the pressure to send more money can bring up anger and resentment, along with the fear of being ostracized by their community if they stop. Author and coach Belen Loreto Grand is the voice for thousands of nurses from the Philippines and OFWs (Overseas Filipino Workers) who are bound to family and duty and assist their relatives financially. In Family Matters, she shares a system of living that empowers, opens the flow of money, and reduces drama and trauma.In Family Matters, various challenging issues are addressed and resolved, including what to do when relatives ask for money, how to support a Filipino family without breaking the bank, and how to maintain family harmony when deciding to stop the flow of money. Belen Loreto Grand draws on the Law of Attraction, the Kabbalah, and more to inspire readers to care for themselves and attract abundance for their family in the States and their family back home in the Philippines.The tools, strategies, and success stories in Family Matters promote a life of love, peace, harmony, joy, and abundance.
The Family Recovery Guide: A Map For Healthy Growth
by Stephanie Brown Virginia M. Lewis Andrew Liotta Jane E. LewisWritten by two specialists and based on the latest research, this book teaches family members how to sustain their relationships during a loved one's recovery from addiction and offers families specific tasks for each stage of recovery, helpful progress charts, and practical exercises.
Family Solutions for Substance Abuse: Clinical and Counseling Approaches
by Terry S. Trepper Eric E. MccollumUse goal-oriented techniques for successful family therapy with substance abusers! Family therapy is an essential core competency for substance-abuse counselors, according to the Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration. Family Solutions for Substance Abuse: Clinical and Counseling Approaches delivers the information and techniques you need to effectively treat addicts and their families. By understanding and changing the dynamics of the family system, you will be better able to guide your clients to adopt strategies and behaviors that sustain recovery and maintain healthy relationships. Family Solutions for Substance Abuse provides clear models of diagnosis and intervention for families, whether that means couples, teenagers and their parents, or Mom, Dad, and the kids. The theoretical background on family systems will help you understand the context of the client's addiction and the way it affects and is affected by other family members. Numerous case studies and figures bring the expert advice and theory into the practical realm so you can choose the best strategies for helping the shattered family heal. Family Solutions for Substance Abuse will teach you useful therapeutic skills and strategies, including: understanding interdependence joining with different family members negotiating goals and contracts dealing with family violence assessing motivation handling relapses ending treatment Treating addictions is notoriously difficult for even the most skilled therapist working with the most motivated client. Using the techniques in Family Solutions for Substance Abuse offers you and your clients a better chance at success, because addicts whose families share their treatment are much more likely to stay in counseling and remain clean and sober.
The Family Tree Problem Solver: Tried-and-True Tactics for Tracing Elusive Ancestors
by Marsha Hoffman RisingProven Solutions for Your Research ChallengesHas your family history research hit a brick wall? Marsha Hoffman Rising's best-selling book The Family Tree Problem Solver has the solutions to help you find the answers you seek.Inside you'll find:Ideas on how to find vital records before civil registrationTips for finding ''missing'' ancestors on censusesInstructions for investigating collateral kin to further your pedigreeA look at advanced court records and how they can help you find answersWork-arounds for lost or destroyed recordsTechniques for correctly identifying and researching ancestors with common namesMethods for finding ancestors who lived before 1850Case studies that show how to apply the author's advice to real-life research roadblocksStrategies for analyzing your problem and creating a successful research planThis revised edition also includes new information about online research techniques and a look at the role of DNA research. Plus you'll find a glossary of genealogy terms and more than a dozen templates for charts and logs to help you organize and record your research. Let The Family Tree Problem Solver help you find the answers you need today.
Family Unfriendly: How Our Culture Made Raising Kids Much Harder Than It Needs to Be
by Timothy P CarneyThe bestselling author of Alienated America traveled the country asking families and experts the same two questions: Why is parenting so hard now? And why are the results so bad?Our culture tells parents there's one best way to raise kids: enroll them in a dozen activities, protect them from trauma, and get them into the most expensive college you can. If you can't do that, don't bother.How is that going? Record rates of anxiety, depression, medication, debts, loneliness and more. In Family Unfriendly, bestselling author and Washington Examiner columnist Timothy P. Carney says it's time to end this failed experiment in overparenting.Have more kids, have more fun, cancel the travel soccer games, let your kids wander off, and give them deeper sources of meaning than material success. This is an old-fashioned view, but every day the evidence validates it. Drawing on rigorous research—both as a reporter and as a dad of six—Carney demonstrates why modern parenting is so misguided. The high standards set for modern American parenting are unrealistic and setting parents—and our kids—up to fail.Researched over three years and written in between rec baseball games and church picnics where nobody was watching the kids, Family Unfriendly is deeply wise, energetically told, and destined to be the most consequential book about parenting in years.
Family Whispering
by Tracy Hogg Melinda BlauParenting is something you do. Family is something you are.--TRACY HOGG Before her untimely death in 2004, Tracy--aka the Baby Whisperer--and her longtime collaborator, journalist Melinda Blau, conceived a fourth book that would apply the commonsense principles of baby whispering to the "whole family." This ground-breaking book explains why "family" is defined by much more than the relationship between parent and child. By widening the lens to focus on the family as an entity, Blau uses the Baby Whisperer philosophy to illuminate how the multiple bonds and interactions that unfold within a household of adults and children coalesce to form a larger family dynamic. By taking this wider perspective, she enables readers to see everyday challenges--such as sibling rivalry, communication, and time management--with fresh eyes. Informed both by research and stories of real families, this new book is filled with the handy tips and memorable acronyms that Baby Whisperer fans have come to expect. The advice is simple, practical, and often counterintuitive (asking kids to help more around the home can make them happier; setbacks can often make a family closer). The hopeful message is that with insight, awareness, and "family-think," we can actually design our families to be happier and more productive, improving the daily lives of parents and kids--and, thereby, benefiting society as a whole in the process.
Famous Curses (The Paranormal)
by Elliott O'DonnellFrightening accounts of the Erskines of Mar, Lambton Worm, Gordons of Gight, Screaming Skull of Calgarth, Wild Cunliffe of Wycoller Hall, Smithhills Hall, Corfe Castle, Dread Coruisk and the Curse of Rudesheim.The Paranormal, the new ebook series from F&W Media International Ltd, resurrecting rare titles, classic publications and out-of-print texts, as well as new ebook titles on the supernatural - other-worldly books for the digital age. The series includes a range of paranormal subjects from angels, fairies and UFOs to near-death experiences, vampires, ghosts and witchcraft.
Famous Frocks: The Little Black Dress
by Dolin Bliss O'SheaCoco Chanel, Audrey Hepburn, Grace Kelly. . . . Each of these women had an influential take on the most classic wardrobe staple of all: the Little Black Dress. In this chic sewing book, patternmaker Dolin Bliss O'Shea pulls inspiration from famous LBDs throughout history--including Mary Quant's mod mini, a classic wrap dress worn by Liza Minelli, Princess Diana's smart A-line, and more--and offers patterns for reinterpreted versions that are perfectly stylish. Including 10 full dress patterns with sewing variations to make 20 garments in all, a primer on sewing techniques, vintage photographs of style icons, and full-color shots of the finished pieces, this book has everything fashionistas need to bring timeless style right into their closets.
Fancy Feet
by Heidi CaveA team of firefighters fought to save Heidi's life after a horrific accident that killed her best friend, burned over 53 percent of Heidi's body, and claimed both her legs. The following year followed countless surgeries, surviving, pain management, fighting, and loss. Until she finally faces the driver who changed her life, Heidi realizes she has one last hurdle: forgiveness.Heidi Cave is a well-respected advocate for burn survivors and amputees, and serves on a board of advisors for the BC Professional Fire Fighters' Burn Fund's efforts to build a research laboratory and treatment center in Vancouver.
The Fangirl Life: A Guide to All the Feels and Learning How to Deal
by Kathleen SmithAre You a Fangirl? * Do you survive boring classes or meetings by imagining your favorite TV couple making out? * Have you posted a lengthy diatribe on the Internet defending a fictional character? * Have you gotten carsick from reading fan fiction on your smartphone? * Has Netflix presented you with the "Are you still watching?" button at least once? If you answered yes, you are a fangirl. (But you already knew that!)Fangirling is more than a hobby; it's a way of life for an enormous community. As a fangirl, you are a passionate, intelligent, and creative creature. But sometimes focusing on the fictional can keep you from putting those qualities to use in your everyday life. Rather than using your pop culture obsessions to avoid your real-life problems, you can tackle issues like stress, anxiety, and low self-esteem by turning obsession into inspiration. If you enjoy flailing over badass fictional ladies or speculating endlessly over plot points, but would like to carve more space for the narrative of your own life, this is the book for you. Written by a proud fangirl who is also a licensed therapist, The Fangirl Life is a witty guide to putting your passions to use in your offline life, whether it's learning how writing fan fiction can be a launching point for greater career endeavors, or how to avoid the myths that fictional romance perpetuates.If you're ready to start translating those fictional obsessions into some bold personal moves, let The Fangirl Life help you become your own ultimate fangirl.From the Trade Paperback edition.
The Fangirl's Guide to the Universe: A Handbook for Girl Geeks
by Sam MaggsFrom notable geek girl Sam Maggs, The Fangirl's Guide to the Universe is the ultimate handbook for teens living the nerdy life. Fandom, pop culture, feminism, cosplay, cons, books, memes, podcasts, vlogs, OTPs and RPGs and MMOs and more—there&’s never been a better time to be a fangirl, or a better guide to navigate the wide universe of fandoms. This handbook is packed with tips, playthroughs, and cheat codes, including:· How to make nerdy friends· How to rock cosplay· How to write fanfic with feels· How to defeat internet trolls· How to attend your first con And more! Featuring wisdom from Sam and insightful interviews with fangirl faves like Danielle Paige, Rainbow Rowell, and Preeti Chhibber, The Fangirl&’s Guide to the Universe highlights the joys of fandom community and offers a fun, feminist take on the often male-dominated world of geekdom. This refreshed edition updates The Fangirl&’s Guide to the Galaxy including new interviews.
Fanny Crosby's Life-Story By Herself
by Fanny CrosbyFanny Crosby’s Life-Story by Herself is an inspiring autobiography of one of the most prolific hymn writers in history. Blind from infancy, Fanny Crosby overcame significant challenges to become a celebrated poet, lyricist, and advocate for the visually impaired. In her own words, Crosby reflects on her remarkable life, filled with unwavering faith, resilience, and an extraordinary gift for composing hymns that continue to inspire generations.The narrative begins with Crosby’s childhood in rural New York, where she describes the early loss of her sight and the influence of her grandmother, who nurtured her education and faith. Rather than focusing on limitations, Crosby embraces her condition as a divine calling, crediting her blindness with sharpening her spiritual vision. Her journey takes readers through her time at the New York Institution for the Blind, where she developed her love for music, writing, and teaching.Crosby shares heartfelt stories of the people, places, and experiences that shaped her—particularly her encounters with influential figures, including U.S. presidents and prominent religious leaders. Central to the autobiography is her deep Christian faith, which not only inspired her personal life but also fueled the creation of over 8,000 hymns, including beloved classics like “Blessed Assurance” and “To God Be the Glory.”Beyond her musical achievements, Crosby’s work as a public speaker and social reformer shines through, revealing her commitment to serving others, especially the poor and disabled. Her humility, humor, and sense of purpose resonate throughout the book, offering readers a glimpse into the heart of a woman whose words touched countless lives.Fanny Crosby’s Life-Story by Herself is not only a testament to personal triumph but also an invitation to trust in the power of faith and perseverance. For readers drawn to memoirs, hymnody, or stories of spiritual inspiration, this autobiography remains a deeply moving and timeless account of a life well lived in service to God and humanity.
Fantastic Voyage: Live Long Enough to Live Forever
by Ray Kurzweil Terry GrossmanOne of the most respected scientists and futurists in America teams up with an expert on human longevity, to show how we can tap today's revolution in biotechnology and nanotechnology to virtually live forever.Startling discoveries in the areas of genomics, biotechnology, and nanotechnology are occurring every day. The rewards of this research, some of it as spectacular as what was once thought of as science fiction, are practically in our grasp. Already it is possible to analyze our individual genetic makeups and evaluate our predisposition for breast cancer or other deadly diseases on a case-by-case basis. And once we've isolated these genes, the ability to repress or enhance them through biotechnology is just around the corner. Soon, for example, it will be feasible for 10% of our red blood cells to be replaced by artificial cells, radically extending our life expectancy and enhancing our physical and even mental abilities beyond what is humanly possible today. In Fantastic Voyage, Ray Kurzweil and Terry Grossman will show us how amazingly advanced we are in our medical technology, and how incredibly far each of us can go toward living as long as we dare imagine.With today's mind-bending array of scientific knowledge, it is possible to prevent nearly 90% of the maladies that kill us, including heart disease, cancer, diabetes, kidney disease, and liver disease. Ray Kurzweil and Terry Grossman start the reader on a fantastic journey to undreamed-of vitality with a comprehensive investigation into the cutting-edge science on diet, metabolism, genetics, toxins and detoxification, the hormones involved with aging and youth, exercise, stress reduction, and more. By following their program, which includes such simple recommendations as drinking alkaline water and taking specific nutritional supplements to enhance your immune system and slow the aging process on a cellular level, anyone will be able to immediately add years of healthy, active living to his life.
FAQs on Anxiety
by Simon ChappleYou left the doctor's surgery before you could ask the things you really wanted to know. You've googled your question about anxiety and had 75 answers, all contradicting each other.You asked your best friend - but they looked at you strangely.You have so many questions, but no idea where to start finding the answers. Here they are. In this book you'll find the definitive, expert responses to all your FAQs: On Anxiety. No question is too simple, too embarrassing, too rude or too offbeat to be included, and each one has been asked by thousands of people just like you.Can anxiety make you vomit?Will I lose my job because of anxiety?Are anxious people weak?All these questions, and hundreds more, are covered in this short but powerful, helpful, practical guide to managing your anxiety. Read at your leisure, or dip in and out when you most need the support or to shine a light on the thoughts and feelings that are making you uncomfortable or unhappy, and to bring them out of the shadows so you can understand and accept them.
FAQs on Anxiety
by Simon ChappleYou left the doctor's surgery before you could ask the things you really wanted to know. You've googled your question about anxiety and had 75 answers, all contradicting each other.You asked your best friend - but they looked at you strangely.You have so many questions, but no idea where to start finding the answers. Here they are. In this book you'll find the definitive, expert responses to all your FAQs: On Anxiety. No question is too simple, too embarrassing, too rude or too offbeat to be included, and each one has been asked by thousands of people just like you.Can anxiety make you vomit?Will I lose my job because of anxiety?Are anxious people weak?All these questions, and hundreds more, are covered in this short but powerful, helpful, practical guide to managing your anxiety. Read at your leisure, or dip in and out when you most need the support or to shine a light on the thoughts and feelings that are making you uncomfortable or unhappy, and to bring them out of the shadows so you can understand and accept them.
FAQs on OCD
by Ashley Fulwood Zoe WilsonFOREWORD BY PROFESSOR PAUL SALKOVSKIS- You left the doctor's surgery before you could ask the things you really wanted to know.- You've googled your question about OCD and had 75 answers, all contradicting each other.- You asked your best friend - but they looked at you strangely.You have so many questions, but no idea where to start finding the answers. Here they are. In this book you'll find the definitive, expert responses to all your FAQs: On OCD. No question is too simple, too embarrassing, too rude or too offbeat to be included, and each one has been asked by thousands of people just like you.Will people judge me for my thoughts?Can hormones make OCD worse?Does anyone ruminate as much as me?All these questions, and hundreds more, are covered in this short but powerful, helpful, practical guide to managing your OCD. Read at your leisure, or dip in and out when you most need the support or to shine a light on the thoughts and feelings that are making you uncomfortable or unhappy, and to bring them out of the shadows so you can understand and accept them.
FAQs on OCD
by Ashley Fulwood Zoe WilsonFOREWORD BY PROFESSOR PAUL SALKOVSKIS- You left the doctor's surgery before you could ask the things you really wanted to know.- You've googled your question about OCD and had 75 answers, all contradicting each other.- You asked your best friend - but they looked at you strangely.You have so many questions, but no idea where to start finding the answers. Here they are. In this book you'll find the definitive, expert responses to all your FAQs: On OCD. No question is too simple, too embarrassing, too rude or too offbeat to be included, and each one has been asked by thousands of people just like you.Will people judge me for my thoughts?Can hormones make OCD worse?Does anyone ruminate as much as me?All these questions, and hundreds more, are covered in this short but powerful, helpful, practical guide to managing your OCD. Read at your leisure, or dip in and out when you most need the support or to shine a light on the thoughts and feelings that are making you uncomfortable or unhappy, and to bring them out of the shadows so you can understand and accept them.