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The Forever Angels: Near-Death Experiences in Childhood and Their Lifelong Impact
by P. M. AtwaterA groundbreaking study of the lifelong effects of near-death experiences in the newly born, babies, toddlers, and children up to age five • Draws on interviews with nearly 400 childhood experiencers, both fully matured and young, as well as more than 40 years of NDE research involving over 5,000 people • Reveals how those who experience a near-death state at a young age are profoundly affected for the rest of their lives, including developing psychic and intuitive abilities, “wisdom beyond their years,” and a pervasive feeling of being “homesick for heaven” • Investigates the wide-awake consciousness of babies being born, womb memories, and the experience of being alive on the other side of death In this major study of near-death experiences with the newly born, babies, toddlers, and children up to age five, NDE expert P. M. H. Atwater reveals how those who experience a near-death state or other worlds at a very young age are profoundly affected for the rest of their lives, including developing psychic and intuitive abilities, higher intelligence and “wisdom beyond their years,” and a pervasive feeling of being “homesick for heaven.” Drawing on interviews with nearly 400 childhood experiencers, both fully matured and young, Atwater explores their accounts of what it is like to be alive on the other side of death as well as what makes them different from others, complemented by a deep analysis of statistical evidence from her more than 40 years of NDE research involving more than 5,000 people. She shows how, in contrast to adult experiencers, child and infant experiencers of near-death states cannot compare “before” with “after” as adults do, because they don’t have a “before.” The world of these “forever angels” is the life continuum, a stream of consciousness that has always existed and always will. Integrating “where they once were” with “where they now are” is a lifelong challenge. The author explores how those who have a near-death experience very early in life, or even in utero, grow up “different”--sometimes geniuses, sometimes lost, yet unusually psychic and smart, all at the same time. She reveals how these experiences and their knowledge of the afterlife affect the individual in many areas, including family life, dating, health, education, and spirituality, as well as increasing the experiencer’s potential for thoughts of suicide, out-of-body experiences, and PTSD symptoms. Examining the forever angels’ memories of the womb, birth, early childhood, and the other world, Atwater investigates the wide-awake consciousness of babies being born, the vivid recall of mature childhood near-death experiencers, and how memory of the life-continuum never fades, nor does the desire to go back.
Forever Boy: A Mother's Memoir of Autism and Finding Joy
by Kate SwensonWith her popular blog, Finding Cooper's Voice, Kate Swenson has provided hope and comfort for hundreds of thousands of parents of children with Autism. Now, Kate shares her inspiring story in this powerful memoir about motherhood and unconditional love When Kate Swenson&’s son Cooper was diagnosed with severe, nonverbal autism, her world stopped. She had always dreamed of having the perfect family life. She hadn&’t signed up for life as a mother raising a child with a disability.At first, Kate experienced the grief of broken dreams. Then she felt the frustration and exhaustion of having to fight for your child in a world that is stacked against them. But through hard work, resilience and personal growth, she would come to learn that Cooper wasn&’t the one who needed to change. She was. And it was this transformation that led Kate to acceptance—and ultimately joy. In Forever Boy, Kate shares her inspiring journey with honesty and compassion, offering solace and hope to others on this path and illuminating the strength and perseverance of mothers.
Forever Chic: Frenchwomen's Secrets for Timeless Beauty, Style, and Substance
by Tish JettFor any woman who last saw forty on her speedometer comes a sparkling new primer for aging--the French way--with grace and style. Frenchwomen of a certain age (over forty) are captivating and complex. They appear younger than their years and remain stylish throughout their lives. They look at birthdays as a celebration of a life well-lived and perhaps a good reason to go shopping before they dress to perfection for a celebration of another anniversaire. American-born journalist and blogger Tish Jett has lived among the French for years and has studied them and stalked them to learn their secrets. Exploring how their wardrobe, beauty, diet, and hair rituals evolve with time and how some aspects of their signature styles never change, Jett shows how Frenchwomen know their strengths, hide their weaknesses, and never talk about their fears, failures, or flaws. After all, in France, beauty, style, and charm have no expiration dates!
Forever Cool: How To Achieve Ageless, Youthful, and Modern Personal Style, For Women and Men
by Sherrie MathiesonEach year, 75 million baby boomers spend $100 billion on clothes—but you’d never know it to look at them. Alarmed by the fashion faux pas of her fellow fifty-plus peers, style consultant Sherrie Mathieson set out to help them update their personal style yet remain age-appropriate. While her theory is to skip formulas and mix it up, she counsels her boomer brethren to avoid trying too hard (Ladies, what’s worn in Vegas, stays in Vegas; guys, flowered shirts are so Beach Boys). She presents stylish, contemporary twists to classic looks (a simple, sleekly cut black suit is punched up with stacked silver jewelry; a graphic skirt adds panache to a solid-color sweater set; a pair of men’s khakis is driven out of dullsville with a black linen shirt). Each page pictures an unfortunate “never cool” ensemble and beside it a “forever cool” rendition. Whether her stuck-in-a-fashion-rut real-life people are sporting sad accessories, underage looks, problem prints, or predictable pieces, Mathieson takes on all of them with kindhearted candor and breathes new life into their attire. From work attire to special-occasion outfits for evening, the beach, the gym—even the ski slopes!—Sherrie Mathieson has fresh-looking fashion fixes for any boomer who is ready to ramp up his or her clothes savvy.
Forever Fifty and Other Negotiations
by Judith ViorstA charming book of poetry about getting older in this modern age. Viorst's humor is the deft answer to the stress of becoming "over fifty".
Forever Home: Moving Beyond Brokenness to Build a Strong and Beautiful Life
by Anh LinFrom the creator of The Abundant Life Devotional Journal and the popular YouTube channel Girl and The Word, Anh Lin's unique blend of biblical teaching and personal storytelling helps you build the strong, peaceful, abundant life you've always dreamed of--inside and out.Many of us long for lasting peace and stability, whether we are healing from painful memories, grieving a recent loss, or simply trying to find a quiet path in a chaotic world. In Forever Home, you can get to the root of "why does this keep happening to me?" by learning the truth behind your thoughts and the role they play in your current reality. As Anh vulnerably shares how she rebuilt her own "safe house" after the trauma of her early life, you will discover the five powerful steps to rebuilding your forever home:How to remove the unsafe patterns of your pastHow to renew the foundation of your lifeHow to rebuild the framework of your resilienceHow to reinforce the integrity of your boundariesHow to restore the beauty that God promised you It's time to uproot the things from your past, live free from the pain that's holding you back, and experience the abundant life that God designed just for you. Welcome home.
Forever in My Heart: A Grief Journal
by Tanya Carroll RichardsonQuestions, suggestions, and prompts for immortalizing the memories of a loved one who has passed on.Celebrate the life of your loved one.Keep their spirit close in your heart.Remember and cherish your time together.Filled with touching and inspiring prompts, Forever in My Heart is a comforting journal for recording your reflections on your loved one's extraordinary life, their unique traits, and all the many experiences and traditions you shared. This journal will help you explore your emotions, say things that were left unsaid, connect with your loved one's spirit, and find healing through writing.
Forever Optimistic: Fighting Brain Cancer, Finding Your Best Path, and Leading a Life With Purpose
by Robert S. BramsJoin a high-powered lawyer on his fight for life against brain cancer and his continuing efforts to remain Forever Optimistic. At age fifty-five, Robert S. Brams, a former college athlete, was in perfect health. Bob was blessed with a beautiful family, including his wife and two children. He had a circle of close friends and a hard-driving international law practice as partner at one of the most prestigious firms in Washington, DC. But after a fateful car accident, an MRI scan revealed a shadow on his brain that suddenly shattered his carefully constructed life. Brams was diagnosed with brain cancer—one of the most overwhelming challenges a person can face. What would the future hold for Brams and his family? Brams has been through six extraordinary years—four hospitals, two brain surgeries, a seizure, a stroke, a coma, life support, ICUs, radiation, chemotherapy, various rehab regimens, a hemophilia diagnosis, and countless MRIs. With all this, Brams&’s insurers categorized him as a &“Catastrophic Loss.&” Despite all that&’s happened, Brams is still in the fight, and he is determined to achieve an important purpose—to help beat brain cancer. While his legal career has ended, his continuing struggles have caused him to reprioritize his values and change his perspective on what really matters in life. Having stood at death&’s door and now confronted with an uncertain prognosis, Brams&’s insights on life, love, family, education, business, and finding your passion take on a distinctive power and clarity. Readers from every walk of life looking for inspiration and motivation will find it in Brams&’s remarkable story. Struggles, setbacks, and failures in his youth were &“no fun,&” but with optimism and determination, Brams found his best path and ultimately succeeded. He reminds us that it&’s not where you start, but rather where you finish that is important. Inspiring, powerful, and eminently readable, Forever Optimistic: Fighting Brain Cancer, Finding Your Best Path, and Leading a Life With Purpose is by turns moving, humorous, and brimming with hard-won wisdom. Brams&’s story is one of remarkable courage in the face of tragedy. Please support the brain cancer fight at www.1MBBC.com.
Forever Ours: Real Stories of Immortality and Living from a Forensic Pathologist
by Janis AmatuzioForensic pathologist Janis Amatuzio has performed thousands of autopsies. She chose her line of work in part because it allowed her to help unravel the mystery of each person’s death. She found that by listening and talking to the loved ones of the deceased, she could offer them some sense of closure. In the course of her work, she has heard extraordinary stories from grieving loved ones, patients near death, police officers, clergy members, and colleagues — stories of spiritual and otherworldly occurrences concerning the transition between life and death. From the experience of one of her first patients — who on the day of his death told of being “visited” by a friend who had been dead forty years — to incredible coincidences — such as two daughters thousands of miles apart experiencing unexplained sensations at the precise moment their father passed away — Dr. Amatuzio began recording the stories she heard and filing them away. Forever Ours presents these heartfelt accounts and honors the mystery of life and death, exploring the realms of visions, synchronicities, and communications on death’s threshold. Told in the voice of a compassionate scientist and medical expert who sees death every day, these stories eloquently convey the comfort Dr. Amatuzio has found in what she sees and hears.
Forever Skills: The 12 Skills to Futureproof Yourself, Your Team and Your Kids
by Kieran Flanagan Dan GregoryWhat skills will matter most for work, business and life in the future? Where should you focus your energy and effort when the world is changing at an extraordinary rate? How can you future proof yourself, your organisation and your kids? In this ground-breaking book Kieran Flanagan and Dan Gregory have interviewed hundreds of successful business people, educators, futurists, economists and historians to uncover the key skills that will always be critical to success in business and in life. Where most futurists increase your sense of panic and anxiety with dystopian images of the not-too-distant future characterised by Artificial Intelligence (AI) taking our jobs, algorithms hacking our most private moments and Austrian-accented cyborgs raising our children, Kieran and Dan remind us that we need to look beyond the things changing around us and focus on the things that won’t change within us. Identify the skills you have that will always be relevant Gain insight from business leaders, entrepreneurs, educators, sport leaders and more Learn why each skill matters, and how to make it stronger Discover the things that won’t change as we inch toward the future These 12 FOREVER SKILLS are designed to set you up for whatever the future may throw at you plus help you get more success in your work and life, today.
Forged in Darkness: The Many Paths of Personal Transformation
by Dr. Joanna LaPradeWritten by an experienced psychotherapist, Forged in Darkness encourages readers to work with archetypes in mythology to stop rejecting the darkness within and instead learn to embrace it.When we search within, we inevitably find the underworld – lost connections, failed enterprises, haunting memories, insecurities and buried secrets. This book unites self-discovery with mythology, returning the underworld to its rightful place – a dreaded realm that harbours profound transformation, richness and expansion. Using archetypes from mythology, psychotherapist Dr Joanna LaPrade teaches readers that experiences of darkness are natural and necessary markers along the path of growth and discovery. We all experience darkness, and this comprehensive and accessible guide will show readers of all ages how to embrace the shadowed parts of themselves. For millennia, cultures around the world have told myths about the underworld. It is a tragedy that the only image we have in the West is that of Hercules, requiring us to be strong and defeat the shadowed parts of our life. Forged in Darkness explores the archetype Hercules represents and turns toward other heroes and gods for models of journeying into darkness. When we question, learn to accept and make sacrifices, Odysseus is present. We acknowledge Dionysus when we reconnect with what is volcanic, unrestrained and feral. We may experience Persephone as we&’re abducted from our comforts and connected to a mysterious authority within.
Forget Prayers, Bring Cake: A Single Woman's Guide to Grieving
by Merissa Nathan GersonThough at times it may seem impossible, we can heal with help from our friends and community– if we know how to ask. This heartrending, relatable account of one woman&’s reckoning with loss is a guide to the world of self-recovery, self-love, and the skills necessary to meeting one's own needs in these times of pain– especially when that pain is suffered alone. Grief is all around us. In the world of today it has become common and layered, no longer only an occasional weight. A book needed now more than ever, Forget Prayers, Bring Cake is for people of all ages and orientations dealing with grief of any sort—professional, personal, romantic, familial, or even the sadness of the modern day. This book provides actions to boost self-care and self-worth; it shows when and how to ask for love and attention, and how to provide it for others. It shows that it is okay to define your needs and ask others to share theirs. In a moment in which community, affection, and generosity are needed more than ever, this book is an indispensable road map. This book will be a guiding light to a healthier mental state amid these troubled times.
The Forgetful Gentleman: Thirty Ways to Turn Good Intentions into Action
by Nathan TanA twenty-first century gentleman’s guide to self-improvement, featuring thirty tips on style, hygiene, exercise, etiquette, culture, and more.The modern man has good intentions—all he lacks are the tools to turn them into gentlemanly action. This illustrated reference guide instructs and informs readers on the subtle art of being a contemporary gentleman by incorporating both traditional and modern practices, bringing the classic idea of gentlemanliness forward into the twenty-first century. As stylish and as dapper as its readers will become, this book offers action-oriented guidance on a range of subjects, including advice on managing social networks, choosing the right suit silhouette, fostering the art of conversation, hosting a successful party, mixing a signature cocktail, working out like a Navy SEAL, developing creativity, and much more. With wit and humor, The Forgetful Gentleman offers the necessary encouragement to help any modern man become the best gentleman he can be.
Forging Healthy Connections
by Trevor Crow Maryann KarinchFrom the moment of birth to the second we die, we need relationships. We get sick, mentally and physically, without the emotional and physical security that flows from positive connections to other human beings.In Forging Healthy Connections, marriage and family therapist and talk show host Trevor Crow and writer Maryann Karinch explore strategies for setting up and maintaining secure personal connections in our professional and personal lives. They show how to build a healthy network of connections so we can create an emotional safe haven that directly and positively impacts our health. They examine why so many of us fail or lose relationships as we age, discuss the types of relationships we might be lacking, explore trust issues, explain the reciprocal effect and, most importantly, describe how to establish and practice empathy with friends, family and business associates.Forging Healthy Connections is a powerful resource for combating the loss of personal bonds in today's impersonal digital age. It provides readers with the tools needed to achieve and maintain healthy personal connections that will ultimately lead to a lifetime of satisfaction, fulfillment and meaningful relationships.
Forgive And Forget
by Lewis SmedesFor all of us who have been wounded by another and struggled to understand and move beyond our feelings of hurt and anger, Lewis Smedes's classic book on forgiveness shows that it is possible to heal our pain and find room in our hearts to forgive. Breaking down the process of healing into four stages and offering stories of real people's experience throughout, this wise book provides hope and solace for all who long for the peace that comes with forgiveness.
Forgive Everyone for Everything: 21 Days to Clear Your Mind, Heal Your Heart, and Manifest a Meaningful Life
by Iyanla VanzantIyanla Vanzant's classic book on forgiveness gets a modern update.Take back your power, heal toxic relationships, and harness the energy of your thoughts.Too many of us feel stuck, trapped in relationships, and weighed down by past trauma. We might be quick to judge and slow to pardon, and self-righteous about our feelings as we dwell on memories of what we or others did (or failed to do). With this book, New York Times best-selling author and spiritual leader Iyanla Vanzant challenges us to embrace the new power of forgiveness.With Iyanla&’s 21-Day Forgiveness Plan, you&’ll explore relationship dynamics with your parents, children, friends, partners, yourself, and even God. Through journaling work and Emotional Freedom Techniques (also known as &“tapping&”), you&’ll learn to see yourself, your life, your every experience, and every person in your life from a different perspective. The free audio download that accompanies this book contains personal guidance from Iyanla on the Forgiveness Process, supportive meditations, and 18 daily prayers.Whatever challenges you face, forgiveness is the key to change. Forgiveness doesn&’t mean agreeing with, condoning, or even liking what has happened. It means letting go and knowing that everything is just as it needs to be in order for you to grow and learn. Releasing the past restores you to the full energy of the present moment so that you can live with more love, gain clarity on your life&’s lessons and blessings, and discover a new level of personal freedom, peace, and well-being.If you are ready to stop feeling bad, stop being wounded, and stop giving yourself reasons and excuses to be, do, and have less than you desire . . . It's time to forgive everyone for everything!Forgive Everyone for Everything is a revised edition of Forgiveness: 21 Days to Forgive Everyone for Everything (9781401952044).
Forgive for Good
by Frederic LuskinBased on scientific research, this groundbreaking study from the frontiers of psychology and medicine offers startling new insight into the healing powers and medical benefits of forgiveness. Through vivid examples (including his work with victims from both sides of Northern Ireland's civil war), Dr. Fred Luskin offers a proven nine-step forgiveness method that makes it possible to move beyond being a victim to a life of improved health and contentment.
Forgive for Love
by Frederic LuskinFinding the love of your life and holding onto that relationship is more difficult than ever. The problem hasn't gone unnoticed. From relationship therapists to speed-dating, self-help books to online matchmaking, an entire industry has developed to help us navigate the bumpy road of relationships. Yet in spite of the availability of all these resources, many of us still struggle to discover and keep the love of our lives. That is, until now. This groundbreaking book from the frontiers of psychology offers startling new research about the one missing factor that is vital to relationships--forgiveness. A national bestselling author and leading expert on forgiveness, Dr. Fred Luskin shows that no matter how much two people may love each other, their relationship will not succeed unless they practice forgiveness--an approach that most relationship experts continue to ignore. Why is forgiveness an essential tool for relationships? Studies reveal that 70 percent for what we argue about at the beginning of our relationships will never be fully resolved. In other words, our basic needs and behaviors don't change over time. The issues are endless: the socks that always end up on the floor, how often to have sex, the ESPN obsession, working hours, and, of course, friends and family. Without forgiveness, these issues, however big or small, too easily turn into relationship-eroding grudges. Forgive for Love is the solution for your relationship woes, providing the tools you need to find and hold onto the love of your life. Dr. Luskin delivers a proven seven-step program for creating and maintaining loving and lasting relationships, teaching easy-to-learn forgiveness skills that will not only resolve immediate conflicts but improve the overall happiness and longevity of your relationships. Simply put: people in healthy relationships figure out how to forgive their partners for being themselves. They do so because it is nearly impossible to change other people and because none of us are perfect. Forgiveness is the key, and Forgive for Love has the answers.
Forgive Me: Forgiveness
by Asma ElferkoussBeing Rejected, Abandoned or Betrayed are feelings shared by most human beings. This epistolary novel allows us to forgive others,to forgive one's experience and to forgive oneself in order to build resilience and be able to move forward in one's life in the best possible way.
Forgive One Another: Moving Past the Hurt One Step at a Time
by Gloria ChisholmRooted in the theory that it takes twenty-one days to build a habit, each of Gloria Chisholm's warm, practical "One Another" books is composed of twenty-one daily readings designed to help you make positive life changes that benefit you and those you love.Make Forgiveness a Habit You Won't Want to Break.For most of us, the act of forgiveness requires great force of will. Extension of grace is rare and demands a conscious choice. Yet if we are to obey Christ's teachings and follow his example, we must be willing to consistently forgive those in our lives who seem the least forgivable. We must commit not just to granting the occasional pardon, but to totally embracing a lifestyle of forgiveness. Through practical, everyday examples, Forgive One Another reveals how you can work through bitterness and betrayal and come to a place where you habitually, persistently, and lovingly offer compassion and forgiveness, as Christ commands. LEARN HOW TO FORGIVE THE UNFORGIVABLE. FIND RELEASE FROM THE PRISON OF BITTERNESS AND HOSTILITY CONNECTED TO PAST OFFENSES.LEARN TO SEE FORGIVENESS AS A PROCESS RATHER THAN A ONE-TIME EVENT.GET HELP FOR STUCK RELATIONSHIPS.Gloria Chisholm is a writer, editor, and Writer's Digest instructor. She has written several non-fiction books, including Love One Another, The Passionate Edge, Huddle Up, and Encourage One Another. Her passion for writing keeps her in demand as a speaker at writers' workshops around the country. Prior to writing full time, Gloria was the managing editor of Parents of Teenagers magazine. She lives in the Seattle area and is the mother of five grown children.From the Trade Paperback edition.
The Forgive Process: A Little Book on Forgiving and Letting Go
by Lee H. BaucomThe Forgive Process reveals a simple process to forgive the hurts and pains that hold people back. Life is full-contact. There are hurts and joys at every turn. But those hurts, when they are not released, hold people captive. The way through a hurt is forgiveness. Yet many people do not understand forgiveness. The misunderstandings and myths make it even more difficult—unless you have a simple process to work through. With Lee Baucom&’s principles, forgiving is a simple, six-step process. Anyone can forgive, move forward, and find peace and healing.
Forgive Your Damn Self: Rewire Your Negative Relationship with Yourself for More Positive Outcomes
by Georgia MurchFrom feedback expert, Georgia Murch, comes a confidence boosting guide to help you accept feedback happily—good, bad, or neutral—as ALL paths can lead to growth!In this fascinating book, author and feedback expert, Georgia Murch, teaches you how to handle feedback without losing yourself in self-criticism. Because feedback isn't just about accepting your flaws, your inadequacies, the things you hide—it's understanding where they come from and rewriting how you see yourself, so you can live your goals.Forgive Your Damn Self will help you combat imposter syndrome, stop chasing perfection, and embrace your talents—flaws and all.By becoming your biggest supporter instead of critic, you'll:Become more self-aware of your impact on yourself and others in the everyday moments...Identify the things that trigger you and hold you back from learning and growing...Learn to hold the space to evolve as a person and know it's in the small moments that real achievement happens!
Forgive Your Way to Freedom: Reconcile Your Past and Reclaim Your Future
by Gil MertzHave you ever been hurt by someone else that you needed to forgive? Have you ever hurt someone else and needed to ask their forgiveness? Do you find the forgiveness process difficult? Could unforgiveness be keeping you from peace and joy in your life?If you answered yes to any of these questions, this book is for you. Forgiveness impacts everyone of us—every relationship, every family, every business, every culture. And the truth is, no one benefits more than us when we forgive, and no one suffers more than us when we don&’t.Okay, so you know you&’re supposed to forgive, but how do you actually do it? Forgive Your Way to Freedom lays out a highly practical, biblical process that helps you walk, step-by-step, through the journey teaching you to:Release your power of forgivenessResolve the pain of your pastRestore your peace in the presentReclaim your purpose for the futureForgiveness has the power to transform lives, restore relationships, heal families, unite businesses, and rebuild nations. Because when we forgive, we are most like God. When you forgive your way to freedom, there is nothing you can&’t do!
Forgive Your Way to Freedom: Reconcile Your Past and Reclaim Your Future
by Gil MertzHave you ever been hurt by someone else that you needed to forgive? Have you ever hurt someone else and needed to ask their forgiveness? Do you find the forgiveness process difficult? Could unforgiveness be keeping you from peace and joy in your life?If you answered yes to any of these questions, this book is for you. Forgiveness impacts everyone of us—every relationship, every family, every business, every culture. And the truth is, no one benefits more than us when we forgive, and no one suffers more than us when we don&’t.Okay, so you know you&’re supposed to forgive, but how do you actually do it? Forgive Your Way to Freedom lays out a highly practical, biblical process that helps you walk, step-by-step, through the journey teaching you to:Release your power of forgivenessResolve the pain of your pastRestore your peace in the presentReclaim your purpose for the futureForgiveness has the power to transform lives, restore relationships, heal families, unite businesses, and rebuild nations. Because when we forgive, we are most like God. When you forgive your way to freedom, there is nothing you can&’t do!
Forgiveness: Breaking the Power of the Past
by Kay Arthur David Lawson B. J. LawsonUnleash the Healing Power of Forgiveness As imperfect people living in an imperfect world, we eventually confront in nearly every relationship the need to extend or receive forgiveness. But when the wounds run deep, forgiveness doesn't come easy. This eye-opening study deals with the difficult questions of forgiveness, including How can I forgive when the pain is so great? Does forgiving mean I have to forget the past' and What if I choose not to forgive?As you dig into what the Bible says on this vital topic, you'll encounter the depths of God's own mercy and discover how choosing forgiveness can free you from a painful past and propel you toward being all that God intends you to be.